CLINGING TO GOD THROUGH THE UNTHINKABLE
Hope for Bereaved Parents.
Wisdom for the Church.
A media ministry designed to help parents of child loss,
equip caregivers to support them,
and give churches an opportunity to enter a house of mourning and grow in wisdom.
"The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning"
Ecclesiastes 7:4
Surviving Child Loss offers hope and healing through a ministry of media
On February 8, 2020, Todd & Melissa Shaffer lost their 18yo son, Tristan, to mental illness & suicide. Their lives forever changed.
And now they are using their gifts of pain and filmmaking to minister to others.
What began as a single documentary has transformed into a multimedia ministry.
WE ENVISION 3 STAGES FOR THIS MULTIMEDIA EFFORT
Surviving Child Loss is a multi-media effort that consists of a 15 episode docuseries, 6 minidocs, and one feature-length documentary.
Stage 1
THE INTERVIEWS: A 15 EPISODE DOCUSERIES
The first 14 episodes are 60 to 90 minute interviews with bereaved parents sharing their stories of loss, survival, and trust in God. These are couples who are grieving well, which doesn't mean they aren't grieving. To grieve well is to trust God in your grief. These couples have lost children to cancer, accident, suicide, still birth, illness, overdose, and combat.
The final episode interviews a dozen pastors, church leaders, and church family to talk about how Tristan Shaffer's suicide impacted their local church community and how they supported the Shaffer's at that time.
11 of the 15 episodes have been recorded and are being edited.
Episode 1:Tony & Teresa Davis lost Andrew in an airplane crash
Episode 2: David & Tracie Freeman lost Nic to Fentanyl poisoning
Episode 3: Hal & Elizabeth Barge lost John to suicide
Episode 4: Arlo & Capri Weiskopf lost Amos in an auto accident
Episode 5: Larry & Janice Brown lost Adam in combat in Afghanistan
Episode 6: Mark & Jennifer Martin lost Ethan to suicide
Episode 7: Brad & Jill Sullivan lost Hannah to brain cancer
Episode 8: Ron & Nan Deal lost Connor to sudden illness
Episode 9: Josh & Nicole Kingsbury lost Amber to suicide
Episode 10: Dan & Kristen Naylor lost Abby in the womb due to an umbilical twist
Episode 11: Jim & Carol Smitherman lost Sarah to pulmonary embalism
Episode 12: Lisa & Miles Armstrong lost Jacob to suicide
Episode 13: Troy & Jana Solhjem lost Jeremiah in an ATV accident
Episode 14: Todd & Melissa Shaffer lost Tristan to suicide
Episode 15: Shaffer church family & friends about loss of Tristan Shaffer
Stage 2
BREATHING AFTER CHILD LOSS
A 6 EPISODE DOCU-SERIES OF 10 MINUTE MINI-DOCS
Highly-produced, 10-15 minute mini-documentaries about the stories of child loss and survival.
The purpose of the mini-docs is to provide an accessible, dramatic, well-produced short documentary highlighting the key elements of a bereaved couples' story.
Stage 3
Surviving Child Loss
THE FEATURE LENGTH CINEMATIC LAMENT
A unique, cinematic experience that is part documentary and part "cinematic" lament," that tells the Shaffer's story of losing Tristan to suicide & surviving as they walked with God through the pain.
What is a cinematic lament? It's what happens when words aren't enough. A filmmaker turns to the tools he knows best.
The Shaffers' Story
This home-schooled family of six never imagined they would be touched by depression and suicide. Two days before Tristan's 19th birthday he ended his life.
Three years later, a week before his 3rd homegoing anniversary, a fire broke out in the garage where God reached down to receive his soul. The entire garage was incinerated. Nothing survived, yet, aside from smoke and water damage, the rest of the house was untouched. It was as if God unleashed his displeasure on the place of Tristan's death and released the Shaffer family from that home.
For the next 9 months they were displaced. Todd decided to act on a desire to make a documentary about their experience. As they traveled across the country they would interview other bereaved parents on camera, hoping it would help them process their grief and find a new equilibrium to life.
As their journey began, Brad and Jill Sullivan invited them to the While We're Waiting Refuge in Hot Springs, Arkansas to interview not just one couple, but eleven couples -- all of them facilitators of While We're Waiting retreats for bereaved parents , and all bereaved parents themselves. Surviving Child Loss was born.
Since then, the vision for Surviving Child Loss has evolved from a single documentary to become an online media ministry.
HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT US
1. PRAYER
The Lord encourages us to exercise our faith through incessant prayer. What can be more powerful than 50, or a hundred, or more of people who ceaselessly seek God's favor and blessing on a project. This is not crowd funding, it's crowd beseeching the God who owns all the cattle on a thousand hills. Pray for our work.
2. SHARE
Follow us on social media, sign up for our newsletter, and share everything we post or send. Share to your church groups. This produces a ripple effect that filmmakers and ministries desperately need to broadcast their message of Christ.
3. GIVE
We are supported by people like you. Your gifts keep this project moving forward. There are two ways to give.
1. Give directly to the Surviving Child Loss production through our partners' at Deidox Media Ministries.
2. Give to our larger work as media missionaries through Sparrow Falls, which is fiscally sponsored by the Christian Ministry Alliance's Donor Fund. This supports our wider ministry efforts at Sparrowfalls.org.
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